Current Journal - January 4 & 6 & 8, 2009
Sunday, January 4, 2009 - This morning, when I came downstairs,
my missing hat was laying on the floor in the same, exact general
area as the spot where Jarrett's
yellow helmet fell off the hook a
few months ago.  As soon as I saw it, I said, "Jarrett.....thank you!"  
I've been looking for it since we got back from Florida last Tuesday.  
Yes, I even looked in the coat pockets and under the coats hanging
from the hooks above this spot more than once -- interesting, eh?

We heard from a lot of people yesterday remembering Jarrett's
birthday.  It was very sweet.  Krissy and Milo came over to visit us.  
In fact, Krissy brought a bottle of very delicious wine and we toasted
Jarrett's 21st birthday -- wishing he were here with us.  

I'm tired.  Gotta go do some stuff - maybe sleep.  haha bye, djb
Here's where my hat was located this morning.
Milo, the super dog.  He came over for a visit and a tour
of the yard.  He is so gentle and good natured.
So, this morning, when I went out into the garage, a
second red hibiscus greeted me - this was from Andrew.
Tuesday, January 6, 2009 - It's the twelfth day of Christmas, and
the ground is now once again covered with snow.  We were, then
we weren't, then we were, then weren't supposed to get snow this
morning.  Then, all of sudden out of the cold, cloudy enigmatic sky  
came some snow flakes and then more and some more and
finally a lot more.....until the ugly grass was once again covered in
a lovely white blankie.  sigh....  So pretty but so cold.

The above headline was linked to a news article that is now
gone.  Would love to know what it said but I'm pretty sure it had
something to do with the former Governor who is now headed to
Federal prison.

After gratefully leaving the brutal 7 degree weather in Illinois on the
evening of December 18th and arriving to wonderfully balmy,
tropical 70 degree weather in Florida, we thought we had left the
Land of Lincoln political brouhaha behind us.

However, when Bob and I arrived at our hotel in Atlamonte Springs,
 we encountered a jolly good man (no, it wasn't Santa) outside the
hotel (near the palm trees) who remarked about what a lovely
evening it was and we agreed saying that we had left Illinois just a
few hours before the blizzard arrived.

"Oh," he could barely contain his glee as he chortled, "Illinois, the
state with that goofy governor, eh?  How's that goin'?"

WHAT?  omg.  It seems that EVERYONE in the country knows who
our governor is (a privilege I had previously thought was only
accorded to Alaskans).  Plus, everyone knows how to pronounce
his unpronounceable name -- it's now gone beyond bizarre.  

Then, last night, I heard an interview someone did with one of our
Congressional representatives, Mark Kirk.  He's in the Army
Reserve and had been in Afghanistan for a tour of duty.  Well,
guess what?  Yeah, he got the same laugh from halfway around
the world from an Afghan citizen.  "Oh, you are from Illinois.  
hahaha.  With that governor.  hahaha."    Yikes!!!

Now I know why my parents moved away!!!  see ya later, djb
Profile of the Sociopath - This website summarizes some of
the common features of descriptions of the behavior of sociopaths.

Glibness and Superficial Charm

Manipulative and Conning
- They never recognize the rights of others
and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be
charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim
as merely an instrument to be used.

Grandiose Sense of Self - Feels entitled to certain things as "their

Pathological Lying - Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is
almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can
create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers
and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector

Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt - A deep seated rage, which is split
off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them
as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends,
they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end
always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.

Shallow Emotions - When they show what seems to be warmth, joy,
love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves
an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining
unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they
are not genuine, neither are their promises.

Callousness/Lack of Empathy - Unable to empathize with the pain of
their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and
readily taking advantage of them.

Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature - Believe they are all-
powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal
boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.

Irresponsibility/Unreliability - Not concerned about wrecking others'
lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause.
Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts
they obviously committed.

Other Related Qualities:

  • Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them
  • Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them
  • Authoritarian
  • Secretive
  • Paranoid
  • Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations
    where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or
    admired - like politics
  • Conventional appearance
  • Goal of enslavement of their victim(s)
  • Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life
  • Has an emotional need to justify their actions and therefore
    needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love)
  • Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim
  • Incapable of real human attachment to another
  • Unable to feel remorse or guilt
  • Extreme narcissism and grandiose
  • May state readily that their goal is to rule the world

Thursday, January 8, 2009 - A few minutes ago, they
reported that we're going to be under a
for the next two days!!!  That's why I
bought a turkey -- no, not for a COOK.

Whenever the severe weather watch is issued, I
always want to bake or cook something.  This time, it's
a turkey - last time, it was roast of beefiness.

For anyone who lives in Illinois and has been hearing
about the aberrant behavior of certain CRAZY political
persons -- here's a rundown
(to the right) of "some of
the common features" related to sociopaths.  I found it
quite interesting.  Of course, it could apply to anyone.

In fact, there's actually a website that asks the
question:  "Is your boyfriend a sociopath?"  Oh my!

Just talked to Diane and Marc is laughing his head off
about the
circus de illinois.  So totally  embarrassing!!

Laugh with ya later, djb
The BIG Christmas tree at Altamonte Springs
Fountain at Downtown Atlamonte Springs FL
Jarrett is allegedly waving bye-bye. I think he wants mama
Diane in the chair and me holding Chuck upside down.